Families pull together pictures and stories and memorabilia to tell a condensed story of the dearly departed. Some memorials are incredibly inspiring when the life speaks for itself. Family members laugh and chuckle at the joy that the person brought to life. There are tears because of the grief from the loss of such a well lived and well loved individual.
One day you are going to push up daisies, be worm food and people are going to gather around your dead body, and they won’t talk about many of the things you think are important today.
They won’t mention your resume, or grade point average in high school or your high performing portfolio.
The most important thing is “who you are,” not what you have accomplished. Your identity is more than your job, where you spend time to afford to live. Who you are includes what you believe about God, about politics and your family.
What makes you unique? Your background, your history, your experiences all come together to make you the person you are today and God can use it all for his purposes, none of it needs to go to waste.
You can’t change your beginnings, but you can change your ending, by the choices you make today.
We will coach you to write your…
- Yours truly died last night and will always be remembered as a person who…
- Yours truly was dedicated to…
- At the time of death, yours truly was engaged in…
- Yours truly has requested this song to be sung at the memorial…
- In lieu of flowers, a fund has been set up for…
Contact us today! We would love to coach you to craft a life of significance that will make for an inspirational obituary one day.
Quality Family Time
Quality time doesn’t happen on a set schedule. It happens in the midst of quantity of time. No one is going to force you to put your family first. They also won’t be at your side at your funeral, yet your family and friends will be there. No one ever died wishing they had spent more time at the office.
Read the following story, then contact us to help you have the same impact on your child(ren).
A woman named Cynthia once told me a story about the time her father had made plans to take her on a night out in San Francisco. Twelve-year-old Cynthia and her father had been planning the “date” for months. They had a whole itinerary planned down to the minute: she would attend the last hour of his presentation, and then meet him at the back of the room at about four-thirty and leave quickly before everyone tried to talk to him. They would catch a trolley car to Chinatown, eat Chinese food (their favorite), shop for a souvenir, see the sights for a while and then “catch a flick” as her dad liked to say. Then they would grab a taxi back to the hotel, jump in the pool for a quick swim (her dad was famous for sneaking in when the pool was closed), order a hot fudge sundae from room service, and watch the late, late show. They discussed the details over and over before they left. The anticipation was part of the whole experience. This was all going according to plan until, as her father was leaving the convention center, he ran into an old college friend and business associate. It had been years since they had seen each other, and Cynthia watched as they embraced enthusiastically. His friend said, in effect: “I am so glad you are doing some work with our company now. When Lois and I heard about it we thought it would be perfect. We want to invite you, and of course Cynthia, to get a spectacular seafood dinner down at the Wharf!” Cynthia’s father responded: “Bob, it’s so great to see you. Dinner at the wharf sounds great!” Cynthia was crestfallen. Her daydreams of trolley rides and ice cream sundaes evaporated in an instant. Plus, she hated seafood and she could just imagine how bored she would be listening to the adults talk all night. But then her father continued: “But not tonight. Cynthia and I have a special date planned, don’t we?” He winked at Cynthia and grabbed her hand and they ran out of the door and continued with what was an unforgettable night in San Francisco. As it happens, Cynthia’s father was the management thinker Stephen R. Covey (author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People) who had passed away only weeks before Cynthia told me this story. So it was with deep emotion she recalled that evening in San Francisco. His simple decision “Bonded him to me forever because I knew what mattered most to him was me!” she said. (McKeown, Greg. Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less (pp. 133-134). The Crown Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.)
In How the Mighty Fall, Jim Collins pinpoints where many on Wall Street collapsed.
…falling into “the undisciplined pursuit of more” was a key reason for failure. This is true for companies and it is true for the people who work in them. (McKeown, Greg. Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less (p. 14). The Crown Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.)
Peter Drucker reveals our biggest challenge in this culture.
“In a few hundred years, when the history of our time will be written from a long-term perspective, it is likely that the most important event historians will see is not technology, not the Internet, not e-commerce. It is an unprecedented change in the human condition. For the first time— literally— substantial and rapidly growing numbers of people have choices. For the first time, they will have to manage themselves. And society is totally unprepared for it.” (McKeown, Greg. Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less (p. 14). The Crown Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.)
We can coach you in the disciplined pursuit of less but better, so that you can cut the clutter and focus on what you were designed for in the first place.
Divorce-proof Your Marriage
A strong home-front and a healthy marriage is the cornerstone of a life well lived. If you succeed at work and lose your marriage, your health, your family, then the cost of success was too high. Marriages don’t end from one decision, but usually from a long slippery slope of neglect. Great marriages are built by making consistent investments of time and focus and emotional energy over time.
This is where our coaching can be so beneficial. We can help you divorce-proof you by providing you with a plan to do the things that will lead to a great marriage.
The news is filled with the costs of celebrity divorces (Madonna’s divorce from Guy Ritchie cost her $76 million and her son). The cost of a divorce is around $15-$20,000.
Investing $1,000 in coaching is a small price to pray to avoid the astronomical cost of divorce financially, not to mention the ongoing cost emotionally.
Don’t wait, contact us today. We have coached hundreds of people to better marriages and we can coach you as well.
Your soul is like the king on the chessboard. If you lose the king, game over!
“The most important thing in your life,” Dallas (Willard) said, “is not what you do; it’s who you become. That’s what you will take into eternity. You are an unceasing spiritual being with an eternal destiny in God’s great universe.” (Ortberg, John; Ortberg, John. Soul Keeping: Caring For the Most Important Part of You (p. 23). Zondervan. Kindle Edition.)
One of the most successful television shows of all-time recorded its final episode. Its star, Ray Romano, had ridden its popularity from struggling stand-up comedy to fabulous wealth and staggering fame. He lived in his parents’ basement until he was twenty-nine years old; by the end of his sitcom’s run he had become the highest paid actor per episode in television history. After filming the last show, he stood before the studio audience and reviewed how his life had changed and who he had become. When he had moved to New York nine years earlier, he said, his big brother Richard had tucked a note into his luggage. Ray read it, in tears, to the audience: “What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul?” (Ortberg, John; Ortberg, John. Soul Keeping: Caring For the Most Important Part of You (p. 52). Zondervan. Kindle Edition.)
Your soul is the most important part of you. Far more important than your portfolio, or your career. We will coach you to have a soul that is flourishing. If your soul is good, the world can be falling apart all around you. If your soul is bad, it doesn’t matter how good your circumstances. No one else can be responsible for your soul, but you. We can coach you to the the “Keeper of Your Soul.”